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Malka Alweis's avatar

Thanks for sharing these tips! It’s always so fun to see what works for different kids, in some ways all our children are different and in other ways there’s universal things that just work! To never ask a question when they don’t actually have a choice to say no is a big shift that we made when we first had toddlers and it has been so helpful for all my kids. Don’t say “do you want to go to bed” or “are you ready for bed” if they don’t actually have the autonomy to say no. Instead, “which pajamas do you want to wear- frogs or flowers?” And “do you want to go to bed after you finish building this tower or do you want to save it for tomorrow”. I see you mention choices in your article and honestly it’s the best!

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Anita's avatar

Such a great piece! My recent Substack was about a trip out which involved a MASSIVE toddler meltdown so this would have been handy. I once heard ‘is it a no because it’s dangerous’. Makes me think through why I say no sometimes!

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